The Oldham Family / / Texas Family Photograper

THE OLDHAM FAMILY

I don’t think it gets any better than warm yummy light and a beautiful family. Birdie was only two weeks old when this family originally reached out to me and I have LOVED being able to watch her grow. They are about to welcome another sweet baby girl into this world and I am so so so so excited to meet her.

Intro.

THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN BEING AN EMPATH AND EMPATHETIC

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I have been told a lot lately that I needed to be better about making introductions. So, instead of telling you how much I love margaritas and tacos, I wanted to let you into a different part of myself. I am a full blown empath. This doesn’t mean that I am only capable of relating to others or understanding feelings. On a scale of 1-10, I am at the tip top. Let me tell you, its dark up here. Its consuming and its overwhelming. People associate empathy with a beautiful trait to have. It is, but I pay a very large price.

My first memory ( I would say I was about 6 ) takes place at the fair. I was with my family. I had won a piece of butterscotch candy, tried it, decided I didn’t like it and spit it out. At some point after that my dad asked me if I still had that piece of candy and if he could have it. Obviously it was long gone and sitting in a trash can somewhere and I broke. The guilt I felt for not being able to give him that piece of candy still consumes me to this day, over 20 years later. Its simple things like that stupid butterscotch candy that make me feel like I am drowning. I have tried to tell myself for over 20 years that it was JUST candy and that my dad was in no way mad at me. Something as small as a piece of butterscotch candy has shaped me so much.

I have always been passionate and caring, but it wasn’t until last year that I started to put two and two together. I had somebody ask me why I constantly made my life chaotic (at the time I was fostering 8 dogs, had three dogs of my own, two cats, three kids and a husband). I told her that the chaos in my life was nothing compared to the guilt I would feel if I chose not to help. Obviously, I am still beating myself up over a piece of candy from 23 years ago. So, I choose chaos. Im not sure how my husband deals with it, but he does with so much grace. I know there is a healthy middle ground, but I have absolutely no idea how to get there.

Lately, it has developed into a new monster.

I was in the bath one night and I dropped a glob of face wash into the bathtub. I sat there and watched it fall apart and sink to the bottom. My heart absolutely broke. I felt like it was drowning. I tried to scoop it up and it dissolved into my hands. So, I dipped my hands back into the water and squeezed another glob of face wash into the bathtub so the first glob wouldn’t be alone.

I KNOW THAT FACE WASH DOES NOT HAVE FEELINGS. I have tried to tell myself that over and over again. For some reason, though, the guilt always wins.

Another thing is dishes. It literally pains me to use dishes out of the dishwasher because I feel so sorry for the dishes in the cabinets that don’t get to come out.


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Its not just dishes and face wash, its truly everything in my life. I love my life, I like to think of myself as a “Keeper” of some sort. I truly believe I was put on this earth to help, maybe just not help the face wash globs. I am trying to teach myself a healthy way of impacting and helping while not losing myself.

When I think of being an empath, I think of treading water in the ocean. I know how to tread water, but sometimes I get tired and I start to sink. It’s a slippery slope between drowning in chaos and drowning in guilt. I hear all of these beautiful stories about empaths and how in tune they are with life and I am over here spinning.

So, here I am. Most likely crazy, but very much so here. Saving the face wash globs.

I do also really love margaritas and tacos.

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The Arredondo Family / / Lubbock Family Photographer

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THE ARREDONDO FAMILY

This little family absolutely stole my heart. We had originally planned on a couples shoot for just the parents, but I am SO GLAD they ended up bringing the babies for part of the session. Those three babies were the best kiddos I have ever been around ( and thats saying something because I am around children allllllll day every day ). Raven is the epitome of motherhood. She is calm. She is patient. She is loving. We talked about how they couldn’t wait to have more babies and how much they would love it if they had twins again. She inspired me to go home and just slow down. I love when I take home lessons from people I meet, and I have truly been inspired by her as a mother. I have found such sweet friends in this family and I am so happy our paths crossed.

Kaylee and Toby, Romantic Wedding at Le Chateau Venue

Kaylee + Toby

If you gain anything from this blog, PLEASE LET IT BE INSPIRATION FOR YOUR FLORALS. Le Chateau always does such an absolutely beautiful job, but these florals absolutely blew me out of the water. Every part of this day was just absolutely stunning and I am so happy I was able to be part of it. Kaylee and Toby not only trusted me to be their photographer but they also welcomed be with open arms as one of their friends. We all celebrated all day long and I could not have asked for a better wedding to play a small role in.

CAN WE TALK ABOUT THAT BLUE CAKE? I will seriously be thinking of that cake for the rest of my career. Favorite. Cake. Hands. Down.

How to find your ideal client.

I have been debating writing this for a long time now, and I just feel like this is all something that needs to be seen and read. There is a HUGE chance that my opinion is not going to be loved among the extremely successful people in this industry, but thats okay.

I have seen and read so many posts about “how to find your ideal client”. You know, those people who will go to the foggy cliff sides of Yosemite for their elopement. Those people who will bring a donkey for their portraits. Those people who will wear the cute flat brimmed hat as part of their wedding attire. Let me be the first to say that those people ARE out there. They are wonderful, beautiful and I am sure they would be so much fun. I will also say that I would be the type of person to wear a flat brimmed hat to my wedding. So please, do not think this is me discrediting any of those people by any means in any way.

Social media tries to make us think that there is only one kind of “ideal client” and if you are not booking those clients, you are doing something wrong. If your images aren’t taken on a mountain at sunset, you are doing something wrong. I have spent the last couple of years feeling like I was back in high school. Like I just didn’t quite fit in. I felt that since I live in Lubbock, that there was no way I would find these so called “ideal clients”. I have felt that my business wasn’t reaching its full potential because I have yet to go to Joshua Tree.

I just wanted to spill my heart for just a second and tell you about my ideal clients that I have had all along.

They dance to country music. They invite me over for a girls Christmas party. They tell me that they felt that we have been friends all along. They are the people who let me talk about being a mom and the hardships it comes with.. even though I am supposed to be taking their family pictures. They bring me coffee. They have wine dates with me. They invite me out for their birthday celebrations. They are the family that tells me that they would be so much more comfortable in jeans and a cowboy hat as opposed to what I have in my client closet. They are the grooms that make sure I have gas money. They are the people who come play with the puppies I am currently fostering. They are the people that sing with me as loud as we all possibly can. They are the people who give me advice about raising two girls in this world and don’t judge me for my mistakes. They are the people who give me the opportunities to show my sweet children how different and beautiful every human on this planet is. I have been there for the birth of babies. I have been honored to hold and love on a baby the first hours that they were earth side. They love on my babies. They invite me to their family table during the dinner at a wedding. We have cried together as we said goodbye to their beloved pets. They play Cumbia music at their reception. They grieve with me when I have lost family members. They go hiking with me. They take me to Jamaica. They share their hardships with me. They take me to Cancun. We have laughed. We have taken shots. We have cried together. We have danced together. We have had dinner together. We have all made memories together. These are my people. These are my ideal clients. I promise to all of you, no matter what genre you fall into.. no matter what kind of music you listen to or who you marry.. no matter the color of your skin, your age or your social status.. I promise you that I will do my absolute best every single time. I will not NOT put in an effort just because we are not on the same path in life. I will give each and every one of you 100% of myself.

Just because I haven’t made it to Joshua Tree does not mean that I have not made it. I have met so many amazing people that have shown me so much love. I have gained more friends in the last 3 years than I have ever had combined in my entire 28 years. I have been down more times than I would like to admit because social media has made me feel like I just wasn’t quite there yet, which has been the case for the majority of my life. I have just never quite fit in. Until now. I fit in with so many different families and people who are all on different walks in life. I have unfortunately let the lonely side of this business get the best of me. I have felt so alone for a really long time and I have finally realized that I am so far from being alone. I have so many people that have shown me so much love and I could never ever ever repay any of you for that right there.

If you wear cowboy hats and two step, you are my clients.

If you prefer to wear jeans over suspenders and flat brimmed hats, you are my clients.

If you are a woman marrying a woman, you are my clients.

If you are a man marrying a man, you are my clients.

If you don’t drink alcohol or dance at your reception, you are my clients.

If you do drink and dance, I can promise you that I will be dancing with you.

If you elope, you are my clients.

If you get married at your house, you are my clients.

If you get married in a field off of the access road.

If you just want pictures of your dog.

If you are black, white, brown, pink, purple or orange.

If you want posed pictures.

If you want to run and play.

If you just want to sit and cry together.

Every single session and every single wedding has brought people into my life that I am so unbelievably thankful for. You don’t have to go to the mountains to make memories. You don’t have to follow along with social medias standards and trends to make it. I have made it. I have met more people than I can even count that I sincerely just love with all of my heart. I am so thankful for every one of you for letting me into your life and for trusting me with your moments and memories. You have all made a person that has felt not enough her entire life, feel so completely whole and welcome.

I cant tell you how many people have mentioned that they were nervous because they just didn’t feel like they reached these standards that we see every day. Let me tell you, that makes me heart so sad. You are all so beautiful and perfect and I am here to document YOUR LIFE. In YOUR WAY. I have learned so much about so many different people and I am such a better person because of each and every one of you. So, thank you. Thank you a million times. You have all made me feel so complete and worthy. Don’t ever stop being you, don’t ever stop being ideal.




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P TO THE S. If your image isn’t up here, it is simply because there are just too many of you to add every single image and I’d have to go digging through all sorts of hard drives. I LOVE YOUUU IM SORRY.













Kimber and Sophie, Vintage Texas Wedding

We have a tale as old as time. A tale that stems from Romeo and Juliet and the writings of Shakespeare. A tale that starts with a double tap. We met on Instagram, purely by accident. Kimber found me (Sophie) on the popular page and started liking my pictures, which sparked my interest so I liked hers back, and nearly 5 years later, here we are, married, and moms to 3 dogs. 

Kimber found her dress from David’s Bridal and was drawn to the style because of its versatility. It had a short crop top overlay that easily could be pulled off to be a strapless dress. It also had a vintage farmhouse feel that fit the theme of our wedding. I (Sophie) found my dress at a boutique called Kinsley James in LA. I loved the off the shoulder look, and the delicate lace detail. I wanted something that would compliment not only me, but our venue and vision. 

Flowers were done by the incredible team at Grayce Floral! They transformed the entire venue into our dream. Food was Top Tier Catering who made a special exception to do our wedding as they only take on 2-3 weddings per year. We had filet for the meat eaters and eggplant and quinoa for the vegetarians. Our sister in law baked our cake and knocked it out of the park. And, how could we forget our incredible photographer who captured every precious moment between us?

Gurss Barn for rehearsal, ceremony & reception! The Gurss barn holds a special place in our hearts- it’s the place where Kimber grew up, where we really looked at each other and said “she’s the one.”

Our ceremony was very special. Our officiant was a longtime family friend who knew Sophie’s grandparents, who passed away a few years ago. We felt them there as we promised our love to one another. We also wrote our own vows which was a really beautiful process. 

The party. was. epic. Tammy from DJ to the Max was our DJ and she kept the party going all night. From the cha cha slide, to friends in low places, us, our friends, & our family were singing at the top of our lungs, arm in arm, having the best time.

We couldn’t have asked for anything more from Sara. She kept us calm when it was pouring rain outside just before our first look, she directed us perfectly while letting our personalities and love be the star of each photo, she was thoughtful, invested and determined. She is wonderful.



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“Never, ever go to bed hungry. Seriously. And also, find joy and laughter in the repetitiveness of everyday.”

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Hailey and Adrian, Intimate Lubbock Texas Wedding

“I was 14 years old when I met Adrian, 16 when I started talking to him, 17 when we started dating and moved in together. 18 when we had our boys and built our first home together. And here we are now, 19 years old, married, happy, and beyond in love. ❤️

My dress was from David’s bridal. I didn’t go into it looking for anything specific, but as soon as I tried it on. I knew it was the one. 

Adrian put his outfit together himself. He got the shoes, vest, and pants from men’s wear house. He ordered the tie online and he got his shirt from JC Penny. 

I had prom at the castle my junior year and when I was looking for a venue I wanted something small and classy. Someone mentioned the castle to me and I thought it would be perfect for an outdoor wedding and reception inside. 

The ceremony was beautiful. Decorations were perfect. Better than I pictured in my head. My dad built the doors that I entered through which was very special for us because those doors were taken off of our house when we started to build it as our first home together.  

The party was incredible. We had so much fun celebrating with all of our friends and family. The DJ was awesome and everyone seemed to enjoy themselves just as much as we did. 

Our photographer was amazing. Absolutely incredibly. It started to get hot outside, but she made sure that we got all of the pictures we wanted with everyone we wanted them with. She accommodated to all of the pictures we wanted and they turned out amazing. She has taken all of my big life event pictures from my sweet 16, to my senior year, my maternity pictures, my birth, my babies newborn pictures, and now my wedding day. Every single session she surprises me with her talent and never lets me down. 

My advice for couples would be to never give up on one another. Things get rough. Life gets hard. Don’t listen to the negative people around you. Don’t focus on the bad and wake up every morning choosing your partner over anything else in life. Be patient. Put god first and let the rest fall in place. “

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“wake up every morning choosing your partner over anything else in life. Be patient. “

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